“Stop trying to “get it together.” The biggest lie we’re told when we’re growing up is that soon as we’re adults, as soon as we’re in college, finish college, get that job, have that steady income, find that someone special, “find ourselves,” find that perfect house, get that retirement fund, have those children, everything will fall into place. Here’s a secret: it won’t. Every new development in your life, good or bad, big or small, will come with its own very special set of challenges. The sooner you accept that, the better off you’ll be. But the myth is perpetuated throughout life, perhaps now more than ever with happy status updates on Facebook and blushing bride/happy multi-tasking mommy blog posts. What these success stories don’t tell you is what is going on behind closed doors. They don’t tell you that your friend who is so over the moon with her new baby had to apply for food stamps. They don’t tell you that your fantastic, involved professor struggles with depression. They don’t tell you that your happily married friend still has nightmares about her abusive ex. They don’t tell you the cousin who just got that jealousy-inducing job opportunity is thinking of breaking up with his boyfriend of 10 years. What closely interacting with people from all backgrounds on the Internet for over a decade has taught me is that no one “has it together” in the way we think they do. So stop trying to have that as your goal, because you are just setting yourself up for massive failure.”
So I read this quote here last week , and it summed up all that I wanted to say in this post(seriously I can’t say anymore)
I just want to know what your say in this is(conversation starter)?
2 thoughts on “To Get it Together Isnt Easy”
I remember the first time that I read this. I was floored. It encompassed everything I needed to be told. It’s okay to not have my life together. And on top of that, I can’t expect perfect when life is all about the experience and the traveling, the living, the trying new things. We can’t wait for moments to be “perfect.” The only perfect time is now. For some of us procrastinators, that’s a little bit harder to accept. Anywhooo…truth be told, it’s like Charles Swindoll says.. Life is 10% what happens and 90% how we react to it. It’s not about what has happened or even what is happening. It’s about how we react to it and how we overcome the things thrown our way.
What are your thoughts?
You are absolutely right. The thing is its kinda stuck in our mindset and it will definitely require a lot of energy to change it. The saying “sometimes its hard to see whats right in front of you” resonated to me after reading this post. I guess its all about learning to accept life as it is.